When a child is struggling, one technique is quick. It’s easy. It cost no money. Yet it skirts any sense of personal responsibility – while undermining the spirit… Read more “Blame the Parent”
Category: Parenting Opportunities
I Wish I Hadn’t Adopted
I wish, I wish, I wish…I wish I hadn’t adopted. There I said it. Like a majority of families who’ve adopted children, I wasn’t mentally prepared for… Read more “I Wish I Hadn’t Adopted”
The 12 Days of Connection – No French Hens or Turtle Doves Required
During this holiday season, are you focusing more on relationships or things? To be honest, our early family Christmases were out of balance. My children opened an… Read more “The 12 Days of Connection – No French Hens or Turtle Doves Required”
Truth or Consequences and Trauma
After extensive reading and personal reflection, my 26-year-old incarcerated son Alex shares his thoughts about parent-imposed consequences. His unique perspective from a traumatic past will help you… Read more “Truth or Consequences and Trauma”
Miss Giving of Thanks?
It’s that time of year for many adoptive families. Do you miss the traditional giving of thanks? Or do you have misgivings? Perhaps you have a combination… Read more “Miss Giving of Thanks?”
Antecedents: Preventing Another Emotional Storm
Another day. Another storm is always in the forecast. It’s been the norm at my house for two decades. An emotional downpour that pops up unexpectedly or… Read more “Antecedents: Preventing Another Emotional Storm”
The Bond I Share with Rosie O’Donnell
Rosie, you are not to blame – regardless of what the tabloids say. Your story is my story. And it’s the story of thousands of families who’ve… Read more “The Bond I Share with Rosie O’Donnell”
Servant, Leader or Both?
“I’m right. You’re wrong.” No compromise whatsoever. This single-mindedness is alive and well in society. It leads to divisiveness among adults. And children are watching. That’s right.… Read more “Servant, Leader or Both?”
Building Empathy in Tough Kids
I can’t say I was surprised. When my children escaped the foster care revolving door and came to live with me, all six lacked age-appropriate social skills.… Read more “Building Empathy in Tough Kids”
A Fetal Alcohol Report Card
My family’s annual Fetal Alcohol Report Card arrived, just in time for our 20th International FASD Day. Symbolic. The 9th day of the 9th month emphasizes the… Read more “A Fetal Alcohol Report Card”